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The Truth in you is Wisdom

Camino is the Spanish word for way. It is a pilgrimage based walk in Spain that many refer to simply as ‘the Camino’. People do it and often receive life altering revelations, others just do it for the fun. For me, it was a bit of both. On returning home and sharing my ‘revelations / wisdoms’ I was surprised to see how many people could relate to them in their own lives.

So here I will share a few and, who knows, maybe the hit an inner musical note with you.

The one word I would use is FOCUS.

Live life like a Camino

If I could live life like a camino, I would…

Have a long term end goal

The end goal in the Spanish Camino is ‘where (or when ) you choose to finish your walk. If you make a committed decision to do this it make the whole journey easier. The is the same for your life, a section of your life or even a project you have chosen to undertake. This over arching goal is you ‘mountain peak’…you don’t need to know how you are going to get their on day one, but, by taking one step at a time you are getting nearer to it.

Have a day goal along the way (and in the right direction).

Don’t fret about your day goal or how, or if, you’ll make it. You make it you don’t…It will all work out somehow. The quality of your day is more important than the kilometer count.

The more crap we have the more complicated we make our life.

On the Camino most people carry their own backpack and stay in hostel accommodation. and others’ have other, totally fine ways. The important thing on the Camino to remember is that there is only one way that is your way…so be comfortable with it. when you carry all your belongings on your back you soon realize what is worth carrying and what is not, hopefully you will have thought of this before you pack. On returning to normal life many people get dismayed with all the ‘things’ we have in our life….the revelation is two fold:

We don’t need many of the things and
The less ‘things’ we have the easier it is to move forward, to make decisions and to be organized.

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“There is only one way that is my way.”

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Going the extra mile makes the treat all the better.

Extra effort, and getting things somewhat wrong, make up the more memorable moments.

Opportunities are ‘there’ its up to you to see them

Don’t get too fixated on short-term goals to appreciate the glory that is in front of you. Opportunities are ‘there’ it’s up to you to see and seize them. (Waterhole).

Appreciate Generosity! (offered or given)…Trust your instinct.

Decision Making

You need to make decisions, and not rethink them after they are done.
Change your state before a big decision (flight date).
Remember that you decide with the INFORMATION THAT YOU HAVE NOW therefore it is pointless going over it later.
Make a decision and do not look back.

A balanced day for you

Take a off day, or multi-days off.

Replace your single vision glasses and turn on for a single ACTIVITY focused vision. Make a day whole by relaxing, Focus on what is interesting/important to you and then do it.

Physical 🚶‍♂️
Mind (relaxing)
Cultural
Growth (learn something new)

My Revelations

The things you give out about are often present in your own personality and actions. It was very different leaving a house full of children. The transition from ‘always busy and noisy’ to solitude takes time.
I can’t stand the noise after the quietness of the last few days, and visa versa, when starting the Camino.
I love the freedom of going where I want … and the solitude of being alone.
I like to meet people for short periods.
Be patient and be prepared to take at least a week to adjust before taking anything strenuous or serious to learn to relax. In life, try to give yourself an idea of how long you are willing to stay doing something to give it a proper try. The more committed your are to your decisions the more likely you are to succeed.

Affirmations

As you think is what you become

Ones subconsciousness is the part of your mind (brain for all intensive purposes) that controls your body. Unlike your conscious mind it does not have the power of deduction…the ability to distinguish between good and bad, to accept or reject, it only takes ‘what is’. And this ‘what is’ is what effects how you feel, think and act. See ‘the stick person’ for full explanation.

Your subconscious mind is ‘your real you’

and the good news is

you can change it.

Two Ways to Alter Your Mind

There are two known ways for a person to influence, or change, their subconsciousness:

Sudden impact event – this is mostly (yet not necessarily) a negative life changing even, for example; a serious accident, being told you need by the doctor you need to change something in your life now or you will die. Its an event which you can’t ignore and you simply do what necessary. It kicks in at a subconscious level, it becomes part of you and you just do it!… This is not a way we will seek out.
Repetition – You repeat what you say / do / think / write every day as often as possible until you subconscious mind simple says ‘OK, this is how we are going to do it from now on’. This easily explains how practice! practice! practice! is how you get good at sport, how you remember lessons from school or important people in you life decades later. Again like a ‘sudden impact event’ your subconscious mind does not want to do it and will fight you all the way…until eventual it will give in.

So your conscious decision is:

What will you feed your mind with?

will it be what people think around you, what happens to come over the media, resentment of others, anger at yourself or others? or would you like to give it something better. Have a goal and align your affirmations towards achieving that goal. One way to do this is through affirmations

Good Affirmations are healthy food the mind & body

When you read something a second time; your don’t see something new in it, you see something new in you that you never say before.

Good Affirmations

Nobody can ‘give you’ a perfect affirmation. Hell you will rarely create a perfect affirmation for yourself. But the reality is that you are the only one who can create a truly meaningful affirmation for yourself.

Don’t get me wrong, you can get some great inspiration from others you see with qualities you like, or take quotes from famous people like Napoleon, Nelson Mandela or Gandhi…But this only becomes useful to you when you feel them emotionally, and can truly relate to the context (and this is more than just understanding the words).

Once you can say an affirmation is truly yours, the simple (or seemingly simple) task is to repeat it again and again, and again. With today’s technology we have so many ways to do this:

writing
recording and listening on the go
make a video
music that reminds you of it
pictures that remind you, and vision board that bring it home with just a glance

As I mentioned earlier, your subconsciousness will fight this new idea with all its might. At the beginning the repetition will be easiest, you get an initial boost as you have ‘decided to do it’. As time goes on the repetition becomes…well repetitive… It goes against everything we are thought. It goes against the grain with thoughts like ‘Not again’, ‘Sure I know this already’, ‘I’m fed up with this’ , ‘Its stupid’….to logically ‘I just don’t want to do it’

….But remember you are 100% not alone. As a matter of fact it happens to everyone and a great quote from Rocky goes

…its not how many times your get knocked down, its how many times you get back up…and keep going.

Get up you son of a bitch, cas Micky loves ya

https://youtube.com/watch?v=1uVFB9VyN54%3Fclip%3DUgkx5uwenK3kNYEewae52A1QA9gh6sfdr1xs%26clipt%3DELrNCRjSwgo

Or from the fighting Picky in the move Snatch with Brad Pitt

Think the big guy in the red jacket is your ‘bad habit you want to change’ the Picky is your affirmation.

…you’ll stay ’til the jobs done

Affirmation Examples

I am so happy and grateful now that … [followed by]

If I want to be free I’ve got to be me

I am in control of my own destiny and my thoughts, actions and feelings are positive

I let everything in my life flow free and easy (as against try to control everything)

I focus only on those thing that serve me towards my greater good

I have infinite potential and I always say and think positively about myself

I am the artist of my own reality . My choices , actions and feelings contribute to my beautiful life

Money come to me in increasing quantities through multiple sources on a continuous basis

I have a strong body and mind all day long. With spiritual perfection I can hand anything

I realize my perfection is perfect and that this perfection is in me . I begin each day where I see each area o f my life habitually

I am able to do what I like today AS I am confident that I am able to deal with the consequences of my choices.

I am on the right path for me. My destination is my choice…and I choose now.

3 Things For Every Day Success

Granted there are numerous things that can help you through the day, however, for me, I’ve narrowed it down to three essential elements. Take them or leave them, you might want to at least consider them and see if you are incorporating them into you daily life today.

Become the person you want to become
Provide the best service you can
Think for yourself

1. Become the person you want to become

Do you know what kind of person you ARE, and ever question if you are happy being this person. If your like 75% of the population of the developed world the answer may be ‘no’. This being the case…

Do you know what kind of person you want to BECOME? Sit down and think about it. I mean really think about it. Take time out to yourself and let you mind take you to the place you want to be. You got it? Then write it down…in as much detail as possible. The reason for the detail is that the next part of the process is to create a vision of this, and ultimately to think about it 24×7, and become it.

Do you know that

You are, without doubt, the very best in the world at…

…BEING YOU

also

If I want to BE ME I’ve gotta BE ME

2. Provide the best service you can

Ones does not MAKE money, it is always EARNED

Your reward (often, but not necessarily, with money) is in direction relation to the value of the service you render. The only people that make money work in a mint, the rest of us have to earn it.

The amount you earn is directly related to the value of the service you provide.

For example, the person sweeping the street keeps his allocated streets beautifully clean and affected say 100 people that use them. His supervisor manages say 10 Street-sweepers…so he is affecting 10 times as many people, 100, so his compensation is more that the individual cleaner. And this goes on and on up along the responsibility chain. Keep in mind, this is not saying that either man works harder than the other. There’s a good chance that the Supervisor used to be a Cleaner, but he stood out somehow and got a promotion. 95% of the time he was promoted because he put more into his work than was asked. He tried each day to do his duties better than the day before. The better you can do your job, the more interest you have in it and a positive attitude towards its execution, will ultimately enable you to stand out in the crowd. It more about how you do it than what you do.

He put more into his work than was asked. He tried each day to do his duties better than the day before.

3. Think for yourself

Do you know that the majority of the people in the world go through life without actually thinking

About 2% of the world ACTUALLY THINK and these 2% are the WEALTHIEST

By thinking we mean tapping into you elevated faculties and acting on their feedback

Our Elevated Faculties are:

Perception
Will
Reason
Imagination
Memory
Intuition

Truly being yourself and having the confidence to actually be yourself takes effort. Be honest with who you are and have the courage to BE who you are.

At the end … you must be able to say:

“My life belongs to me,no matter where I am.”

Developing Self Confidence

What does this mean?

It means, have the self belief to do what you believe in. Having confidence will free you to to where your head leads you, to do what you must do.

Prerequisites are:

Know your beliefs and core values
Have a good image of your true self
Have faith that you can go wrong
Know that you are unique. There is, and can only be, one you… …so you’d better be yourself and not the person other people think you should be

Progressive humans fail their way to success.

We will always learn more from our failures that we do from our success.

A success is hollow if not preceded by (multiple) failures

You already have confidence, you just need to develop it

The more knowledge and experience you have the more confident you will be on that topic…so learn more.

… thus the more knowledge you have of yourself the more confidence you will be in yourself – get to know and study your true self.

Confidence has very little to do with intellect, it has more to do with faith, and by this I mean faith in yourself, and faith that the universe will provide.

3 Steps to More Confidence

1. Examine you Self Image

When you think of anything, you think in pictures.

This is quiet simple how our mind works. Children can identify sounds to things and see them,

long before the have any knowledge of the written language. In fact, long before they can speak they recognize something they like or want, and build an mental image of that so that they can ask for it in the future, should the occasion arise. This does not change as we get older…however, many of us forget that this is the case.

Find a nice quiet place and ask yourself to paint an image of who you are, what you want, what makes you think. Do this often. You cannot do it wrong…you honestly is only answerable to yourself.

Confidence is determined by what is going on inside of you NOT by what is going on externally.

If you don’t like the image you have of yourself DECIDE to change it.

Mind and body cannot be separated. Remember the body follows the mind and not visa versa…so keep you mind positive and prosperous.

Create your own personal Self Image Script. Write how you want to see yourself. Write it in the present tense. Read / Rewrite / Listen to it as often as you can. Build a picture board of it (Vision board) and implant it in you subconscious by constantly repeating it until it is accepted. When is is accepted by your subconsciousness you will become it.

2. Evaluate you Strengths and Weaknesses

Make a list of you strengths and weaknesses (most people will have more of these). Now pay attention to the next line…contrary to what many have been told growing up

DON’T WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESS.

Let me qualify that, only tackle your weaknesses if they are getting in the way of you achieving your goals, or if they are preventing you from developing your strengths.

DISCOVER WHAT YOU DO WELL AND WORK TIRELESSLY UNTIL YOU HAVE MASTERED IT, AND BEYOND.

One generally does something well because they like doing it, it therefore comes easy. By definition it will therefore become easier to be more dedicated to it.

People are rewarded for offering better service that their competitors. Concentrate on developing your strengths and be the best in you field and you’ll love what you do.

3. Make Everyone Feel Important

Train your mind to see ‘in all people’, what they do not see in themselves. Begin to treat every person you come in contact with as the most important person in the world.

Leave everyone you meet with an impression of increase. Don’t let other people (even themselves) influence how you think about someone. Look at them. look for what they do well and let them know you noticed it. Give sincerely merited complements freely.

…the good you find in others is a reflection of the good that is in yourself (this can also work in the opposite way)